By Tracy Renee Lee
The past two weeks have been difficult for me, I have suffered the loss of a dear friend and have served families that have suffered great losses. The COVID-19 Pandemic has caused unwarranted loss, stress and heartache to so many people this year. Not only have we lost loved ones, but we have lost our economy, our comfort and our security as Americans.
Everywhere I look, it seems that people are rude and uncaring toward each other when what we need is love.
I wish we could be kind to each other, be considerate to each other, help each other through our difficulties rather than burning cities, burning businesses and tearing apart what makes up our great Union.
Americans are the most blessed people in the world. We live in a time of convenience and wealth. Why is it then that we can’t add kindness and respect to our society? Why must there be murders and brutal attacks on innocent people walking down the street?
I work with families every day who would give all that they have for just one more moment with their loved ones to say, “I’m sorry” or “I love you.”
Time is so precious, but even more precious is the way that we treat others. For if we treat others with contempt, we will reap the bitter reward of hatred.
Hate eats a person from the inside out and no matter how hard a hateful person tries to find happiness, it will never come to them. I know this because I see it every day. A hateful heart has no room for happiness, which only comes to those who love.
Love is like light and is the only thing that is stronger than the dark. If you have a completely dark room and you strike a match, the light from that match will push the darkness away and light up the room. Conversely, if you have a room filled with light and you cup your hands to create a spot of darkness. As soon as you open your hands, the dark is gone. Light overpowers it just as love overpowers hate.
Love is the only thing that is stronger than hate. If you strike an ember of love in the heart of someone full of hate, love will grow and overtake their hatred.
In my profession (Funeral Director), love is very important. I see all too often those who have pushed love aside thinking that they were winning an argument or for some other ridiculous reason. What I see when this happens is that at the end of life, those who were foolish and let hatred get the best of them suffer the most and they remain miserable for the rest of their lives.
Don’t be one of these people, don’t let hatred get the best of you and most assuredly, let us not allow hatred to overtake our country.
I don’t want to live in a world filled with hatred and discontent, I just want happiness and love for all. I especially want love in your life when you suffer loss because believe me, when the grim reaper knocks, it’s too late to cry for one more moment to say, “I’m sorry” or “I love you.”
At that moment, the weight of hatred crushes every hope you ever had to make amends, to accomplish happiness or to right any wrong you may have perpetrated. It’s too late and you are the person who will suffer the consequences of your vicious actions. You are the person who will have no friends, no love and who will die alone; miserable because of your hatred and terrible deeds. I know because I see it in so many people who thought they could just make a statement, a judgment or an action and not suffer the consequences.
In the end, it’s the hateful people who suffer the consequences, who die alone without love or support and their needs are not met when they writhe in misery.
I lost a dear friend this past week. He was kind, loving, good, made the world a better place and he made my life happier through his actions of kindness toward me. I wish everyone alive could have known my friend.
Christ died to make man holy and my friend John, took him up on his offer, John was a holy man. He lived his life serving others, teaching others and helping anyone who needed help. He was filled with love and he shared his love with those who needed it. If we could all be like John, the world would be an amazingly happy and beautiful place.
John is gone and I feel the weight of his loss deeply in my soul. He leaves a legacy of service to our nation, service to Christ and service to anyone who needed it. He was a great man and now he is gone.
I will have the honor of directing his memorial service in a few days. The church will be bursting as those who John served to make their way there to express their sorrow, their love for him and I will be one of those people.
John’s legacy will continue in his absence because he ignited goodness, love and service in the hearts of those around him.
May we all understand and embrace John’s mission in life to serve and love our fellow beings. Doing so will bring us the greatest rewards. It will fill our lives with the greatest gifts on earth; joy, happiness and love. This is my prayer for you, for our nation and for the world during this time of uncertainty and discontent.
Thank you John, for being my friend and may God bless you as you arrive home, never to suffer more the pains of the world nor heartaches of men, Godspeed.
My name is Tracy Renee Lee, I am a Certified Grief Counselor (GC-C), Funeral Director (FDIC), published author, syndicated columnist, Podcaster and founder of the “Mikey Joe Children’s Memorial” and Heaven Sent, Corp. I write books, weekly bereavement articles, Podcasts, Grief BRIEFs related to understanding and coping with grief. I am the American Funeral Director of the Year Runner-Up and recipient of the BBB’s Integrity Award.
It is my life's work to comfort the bereaved and help them live on.
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